Sunday, December 25, 2011


1. Head
A person's head is the first thing you should pay attention to. Not only is it far from their genitalia, but it is home to the most powerful erogenous zones: the eyes and brain. Rub the scalp and caress the sides of the face.

2. Brain
The human brain is usually the first thing that a person knowingly or unknowingly appeals to when meeting and trying to attract someone else. Charm your partner with compliments and sexual talk.

3. Eyes
Before you have even spoken to your partner, you have used your eyes to feel attraction or emit attraction. Dress in sexy clothing or move seductively to appeal to your partner's eyes.

4. Back Of Head
The back of the head has a lot of sensitive spots. The base of the skull is sensitive, as is the top. Give your partner a scalp massage.

5. Face
A person's face has tons of receptive areas. Kiss or touch your partner's eyelids, nose, mouth, and cheeks.

6. Lips
Lips are a very prominent erogenous zone. Kissing, licking, nibbling and touching the lips can elicit arousal.

7. Ears
Kissing or licking ears and earlobes are some of the most erotic and pleasurable ways to stimulate this erogenous zone. Sucking on your partner's earlobes is very popular as well.

8. Neck
Both the front and back of the neck are important erogenous zones.

Running your fingertips or tongue along your partner's hairline is a good technique.

9. Shoulders
Rub your partner's shoulders. Kiss and nibble his or her shoulders towards the base of the neck as well.

10. Upper Back
The upper back is another spot for massage. While the back is not a specific erogenous zone, many people feel massages are especially erotic.

11. Middle Back
Again, the middle back isn't actually considered a major erogenous zone; however, using fingertips or fingernails on this body part can heighten arousal.

12. Lower Back
The lower back is quite sensitive. By using your lips, tongue and fingers on this spot it is easy to arouse your partner.

13. Buttocks
The buttocks can be massaged to produce a relaxing or arousing sensation. You can also kiss, lick or nibble the buttocks.

14. Arms
Your arms and your partner's arms are full of nerve endings that often get ignored. Just lightly tickling your partner's arms is exhilarating.

15. Hands
Touching your partner's hands with your fingertips, performing a hand massage, or kissing your partner's hand can be more erotic than you might think.

16. Fingers
As part of a hand massage, start at the fingers, rubbing and gently pulling your fingers down your partner's fingers. Kiss, lick or suck your partner's fingertips, or put their fingers in your mouth.

17. Palms
Palms have tons of nerve endings. Tickle, lick or kiss your partner's palms. Using your fingertips or fingernails, run your fingers over your partner's palms in a circular motion.

18. Wrists
Kiss your partner's wrists. Run the tip of your tongue along the inside of your partner's wrists. End your hand massage at the wrists by rubbing them with your thumbs.

19. Forearms
While the inside of the forearms are the most sensitive, don't forget to pay attention to the outside. Use your fingertips or fingernails to lightly tickle your partner's forearms.

20. Upper Arms
Since the upper arms lead to the underarms, the inside of the upper arms are quite sensitive. Run the tip of your tongue along the inside of your partner's upper arms; tickle the outside.

21. Elbows - Outside
The outside of elbows aren't specific erogenous zones. Pay attention to them when giving a full body massage and tickle them when tickling your partner's arms.

22. Elbows - Inside
The inside of the elbows are a fantastic area. This erogenous zone generally likes soft kisses and tickles. Using feathers on these parts works well, too.

23. Underarms
The underarms can be too sensitive. Ask your partner first before tickling them there too much. Do not tickle hard - use soft, gentle touches to produce an arousing feeling.

24. Chest
A woman's chest and a man's chest are essentially the same when talking about the area above the nipples. This area is sensitive to kisses and gentles touches.

25. Nipples
Sucking, licking and pinching are three great ways to attend to this special erogenous zone. Be sure to be relatively gentle when pinching unless your partner requests otherwise.

26. Breasts
A woman's breasts are very sensitive. This is a woman's most significant erogenous zone aside from her genitals. Licking, sucking, nibbling, touching and squeezing are all appropriate. Be careful as some women have very sensitive breasts.

27. Chest - Men
A man's chest is generally less sensitive, so harder touches and caresses are generally acceptable here. Kisses, licking, and tickling are other good ideas.

28. Stomach
Running your fingertips over your partner's stomach is a good way to gauge how sensitive they are. Tickling is a good choice, but never be too rough as it can be painful for those who are sensitive.

29. Belly Button
The belly button is quite responsive, especially on women. Licking and tickling are good choices here. Some people even eat whipped cream or cherries from their partner's belly button.

30. Pubic Area
The pubic area, or area above the genitals, is extremely sensitive. Even lightly running your tongue along this line of skin can make your partner very excited.

31. Hips
A woman's hips are generally more susceptible to touches and tickles than a man's hips. Make your fingers into a "C" shape, grip your partner's hip and squeeze quickly. This will produce a tickling sensation.

32. Genitalia
Male and female genitalia are, of course, the number one erogenous zones. There are different techniques for each area, and these techniques depend on the personal preferences of the receiver.

33. Vagina
During oral sex, gently licking or sucking the different parts of the vagina can induce orgasm. Touching, fondling and fingering can also produce an orgasm.

34. Labia
While the labia are fairly sensitive, women who have pubic hair sometimes cannot feel tongue play or light touches here. Woman who shave or wax can feel these better. Licking, sucking, and gentle stoking touches are best for the labia.

35. Clitoris
There are many, many techniques to arouse a woman by attending to her clitoris. In general, touching, rubbing, licking, sucking and stroking are good choices.

36. Licking
Licking the clitoris is most women's favorite techniques. There is a multitude of ways to do this. If you are a woman, tell your partner what feels good. If you are her partner, listen to what she says and pay attention to the way she responds to different techniques.

37. Circular
Put your tongue on the clitoris. Moving your tongue or entire head in a circular motion, run your tongue in that direction over the clitoris. Don't be afraid to pay attention to the surrounding areas as well, but concentrate on the center.

38. Vertical
Place your tongue on the clitoris and run your tongue up and down the clitoris. You can use just the tip of your tongue or you can use your entire tongue. Change speeds to see what she likes.

39. Horizontal
Move your tongue back and forth over the clitoris. You can move your tongue from the top to the bottom of the clitoris while you do this. Again, vary speeds to see how she responds.

40. Sucking
Put your lips around the clitoris. Gently suck on the clitoris. Use your tongue to stimulate the clitoris while you are sucking on it. Only suck harder if she requests it.

41. Touching
Using your fingers to stimulate the clitoris is also a great option. Gentle touches are very arousing, while harder touches can obtain an orgasm. Do not be too rough with a woman's clitoris until she requests rougher touches.

42. Rubbing
Use the tips of your fingers to gently stroke the clitoris. You can rub in a vertical, horizontal, or circular motion. Vary the technique and speed to her responses. Be sure that your fingers are lubricated.

43. Anus - Women
The anus is a very volatile area. Some women really enjoy anal play, while others do not. Ask your partner before starting anal play. Use your fingers to penetrate her anus. Lick or suck her anus during oral play.

44. Anus - Men
Again, this is a very volatile area. Some men really like to have their partner put their finger into their anus. Some men like to have their anus licked. However, some men do not want this area attended to. Ask your partner before you do anything.

45. Penis
This is a man's most sensitive erogenous zone. Licking, sucking, touching, rubbing and stroking are all acceptable forms of contact for the penis. Never be rough with a man's penis unless he requests it.

46. Massaging
Gentle massage of the penis is done by using the fingertips to touch the penis in light or slightly firmer strokes.

47. Rubbing
Gripping the penis with your fingers or your entire hand, gently rub the penis. Make sure your hand is lubricated.

48. Stroking
Grip the penis with your entire hand. Close your hand around it. Gentle rub your hand up and down the shaft of the penis. Use a circular motion if you want.

49. Sucking
Place the penis in your mouth. Pull your teeth back away from the penis and use your tongue to massage it. Move your mouth down the penis to a comfortable place in your mouth or throat. Repeat. Do not put the penis too deep in your throat.

50. Licking
Run your tongue up and down and all over the penis. Use your entire tongue to stimulate the penis. You can even move down to the testicles if he requests it.

51. Teasing
Using the tip of your tongue to tease your partner's penis is a popular technique to use to arouse him or create anticipation. Run the tip of your tongue over his penis paying special attention to the head.

52. Head of the penis
The head of the penis is the most sensitive part. Pay close attention to this area whether you are using your tongue or hands. The underside of the head is often the most responsive spot.

53. Testicles
Leave the choice of whether or not to touch a man's testicles up to the man. If your partner wants his testicles stimulated, use your tongue, mouth (move your teeth away from the testicles), and gentle caresses.

54. Perineum
The space between the penis or vagina and the anus is a very sensitive spot. Using your tongue or fingers to massage this spot is often erotic. Some people do not like this so check with your partner first.

55. Thighs
The thighs are extremely sensitive and responsive because they are so close to the genitals. Using your tongue or fingertips to stimulate this area before oral play is a good was to raise desire.

56. Knees - Front
The front of your partner's knees may not be very sensitive, but you should not ignore them when giving a full body massage or tickle.

57. Knees - Back
The backs of your partner's knees are highly sensitive. Just like the inside of the elbows, this area should be attended to with kisses, soft tickles and touches.

58. Calves
When you are beginning oral play, the calves are a good thing to use to work your way up to the genitals. Use your tongue or fingertips to stimulate this area.

59. Ankles
The ankles are very sensitive, especially on the insides. Use your tongue or gentle tickling strokes to arouse your partner.

60. Feet
The feet are very susceptible to tickling. Tickle your partner's feet very softly until you know how he or she will react.

61. Toes
Sucking or licking your partner's toes can be a very erotic sensation. This is a fetish for some people, both as the giver and the receiver. Discuss this with your partner before trying it.  

Friday, December 23, 2011


Foreplay means different things to men and women. To please a woman, you need to know "her" definition and obey those rules. The same holds true for men who have their own definition of foreplay.

2.        FOR WOMEN
Foreplay for a woman is more about intimacy and communication than it is about getting "worked up" or turned on.

3.        FOR MEN
Every man has his own idea of what foreplay is for him. In other words, what he likes the woman to do to him prior to sex. Learning what he likes is half the fun of getting to know him.

4.        LIGHTING
You can do a lot by simply getting the lighting level in the room right. Many people do not enjoy sex in the complete dark. Lower the lights to a comfortable level.

5.        AROMA
You might be surprised at how powerful aroma can be in helping both men and women unwind. Find out what your favorite scents are and use them to your advantage.

6.        EAR LOBE
Many men simply overlook the ear lobe as an erogenous zone on women. Sucking, nibbling, and soft licking on her ear lobe can turn a kitten into a tiger. What is more surprising is that men love this type of attention too.

7.        NECK
The side and back of the neck are two of the most sensitive places on the human body. Very light kisses or very light stroking on these areas will melt your partner in no time. You can also use items such as feathers on this area.

8.        LIPS
There are as many ways to kiss your partner. Learn how to kiss your partner in various ways that he or she enjoys. Soft kisses are great, but hard kisses are often needed too. Know when to use the right type of kiss and your mate will swoon.

9.        SHOULDERS
Kissing and light licking on bare shoulders is an all time favorite of women and quite a few men. Pay more attention to each other's bare shoulders.

10.      ELBOW
The inner elbow is a hot spot for sex, especially for women. Use your lips or your tongue to stimulate this area.

11.      WRIST
The inside of a woman's wrist is one of nature's secret hot spots. Hold her hand and very gently kiss or lick the inside of her wrist. Men, on the other hand, are so sensitive here.

12.      HANDS
Hands are loaded with nerve endings and when you pay attention to your partner's hands they will notice. Be light and easy with kisses and licking in this area.

13.      BREASTS
When it is time to touch her breasts, be gentle and understand that sucking on her breasts or squeezing them hard and deep can be painful. Start slowly and begin with light kisses and licks.

14.      NIPPLES
A man's nipples are not as sensitive as a woman's but they can be stimulated by touch or tongue.

A woman's nipples are like two electric switches that are connected to her vagina. Think of a triangle. When you tease and delight her nipples properly a spark can run straight down to her lower parts.

15.      STOMACH
Some men enjoy having their tummies rubbed or kissed, but this is usually not an overly sensitive or erotic area for the male. However, that does not mean the female should make some attempt to please in this area.

Run the tip of your tongue around the circle of the belly button and watch each other squirm.

17.      PUBIC AREA
Whether she is shaved or not the pubic area is a great place to begin your tease with her. She knows where you are heading but that does not mean you have to be in a hurry to get there. Take your time, kiss her pubic area, run your hands over that area and lick her there. The anticipation will please her to no end.

The same holds true for men. Men love it when their women run their hands over the pubic area. You do not have to touch his penis yet, make me wait a little bit.

18.      THIGHS
Kissing or lightly stroking the inside of the thighs is a sure way to help anyone relax and become aroused. You should spend a lot of time in this general area, allowing the top of your head or the back of your hand to gently brush against her partner's genitalia. Yes, this is teasing and both will love it.

19.      VAGINA
Try licking, biting, sucking, and blowing on the skin around the vagina (never into the vagina, as this can cause a fatal air embolis) to see what happens.

There is a line of nerve endings that run down the center of the inner thighs.
It is well worth your time to locate this line and to spend some time gently licking your partner there.

21.      PENIS
Of course the penis is an erogenous zone for men. But the penis has many areas, each of which provides its own distinct sensation when stimulated.
During foreplay, the female should attempt to excite him but not cause climax just yet.

22.      SCROTUM
The male scrotum is the sac that contains the testicles. This area can be highly sensitive to touch by fingers, lips, tongue, etc. Almost any attention paid to this area will be considered erotic by the male, but be gentle in this area. Pain can easily be inflicted here.

23.      GLANS HEAD
The glans head is the top of his penis. This is the head of his penis and is often flared during erection. The glans is loaded with nerve endings and this area is highly sensitive to any kind of touching. It is a little known fact that stimulating the glans alone can bring a man to climax. That is how sensitive it is. Men who have foreskin attached are even more sensitive in this area.

24.      FRENULUM
This is a very small area that is on the underside of the penis. It can look like a "Y" and this area is very sensitive to touch. Any light touching on this area will bring about pleasure to most men, but the touch should be light and gentle.

25.      CALVES
Calves are great for kissing but they are best for light stroking.

26.      ANKLES
The inside of the ankles can be a highly sensitive erogenous zone. Try very gently kissing and licking the ankle area. Stroke this area with very gentle touches and see what happens.

27.      FE E T
Some people are too ticklish to enjoy having their feet played with. For the others, the key is gentle touching without being so gentle as to tickle (unless you plan to tickle which is okay at times).

28.      TOES
Toes can be very sensual, but as above, if your mate is super ticklish, you may need to bypass this one. If they are not, you may want to suck the toes or flick them with your tongue. Many women can actually have an orgasm if this is done correctly.

Everyone likes to be touched in that special way. There is no one rule that applies to everyone, so try them all!

30.      WHISPERS
Whispering something romantic or something sexy to your mate can go a long way in helping them get into the mood. Whispers are like tiny tickles to a woman. They love them and the more you give her the more she will like it. Men enjoy them too!

Tell your partner to close his or her eyes and to not peek. Tell them they are blindfolded. Then spend time kissing and touching as mentioned above. Your partner will love the mystery of not knowing where you are going to kiss them next.

Love bondage is a favorite fantasy for many couples but some people may not be into it. Ask your partner to put her hands above her head, hold on to the head board of the bed, and tell her not to lower her hands. If she can get into this fantasy, she will love the naughtiness of this one. Many men enjoy this one as well as it allows them to be somewhat submissive.

33.      SPOONING
Foreplay can include simple things like spooning. Hold her close, her back to your front, on your sides, and gently caress her. Kiss the back of her neck and shoulders and whisper to her. This technique can easily be reversed so that the male is held.

One of the best things you can do to improve your foreplay is to simply talk to each other. Ask her what she likes and what she does not like, but make this a two-way conversation. Tell him what you like and dislike as well. This dialog does not have to take place during the moment and probably should not.

35.      LISTEN
Talking to one another is wasted time unless you listen to each other. One thing a woman wants is to be listened to. When she is sharing her desires or fears with you, listen to her. Engage her in the conversation and then do as she asks. If you don't understand something, say so, and ask her to explain it to you.

For men, talking about needs and desires is often difficult. Women can help in this matter by gently asking questions and then waiting for the answer.

Foreplay can be extended. By that, you do not have to move from foreplay straight to sex.

37.      SHOW ME GAME
There is an old game that some people love to play during foreplay. It is a simple game. Tell your woman to point to the place she wants you to kiss. 

Then you kiss and lick her there. Then she points to the next place and so forth and so on. It can be very exciting to watch as she gets bolder and bolder. After a certain amount of predetermined time, he gets to point to his body and she kisses him.

An old standby that never seems to fail. This is an old standby because it works. Grab a can of whipped cream and squirt some on her body. You can take turns with this one and, for some reason, women and men love it.

You can use a feather or just your fingertips for this one. Stroke and caress your partner as if he or she were delicate and fragile. Very light strokes can really turn on the heat.

40.      ICE BABY
Try stroking him or her with an ice cube. Again, use very light strokes, just barely touching her body with the cube.

Understand that there is no right way to perform foreplay. Every person is different and it is up to you to learn your partner's secrets. You can start with the basics and move on from there, but never expect what worked on one person to work on all people.

Monday, December 19, 2011


1. ROOM 
Find a room both you and your partner are comfortable in. Remember that this choice needs to be somewhere that is private and that you can alter to fit the mood. 

You will need some space to make alterations to the room and once the mood has been set. Be sure to move furniture if needed to provide an open floor space if applicable. 

Lighting is very important to setting the mood for sex. Often, soft lighting is best. Try any variety of ways to adjust the lighting before you begin. 

Candles are the most popular way to create mood lighting. Scented candles can add another dimension to the mood as well. Be sure the candles are in an open place but out of the way. 

If you have dimmer switches for your lights, dim the lighting to a level that will enable you to see your partner but is much softer than normal. 

Lamps are a great way to add a different lighting level to a particular room. Move soft lamps from other rooms into the one being used. Turn off overhead lights. 

Smell can really enhance the mood of love. Aromatherapy oils, lotions and incense can greatly change a mood and help your partner relax. 

8. OILS 
Aromatherapy oils for relaxation or for romance are a great way to integrate smell into setting the mood. These can be burned or can be placed in receptacles to evaporate. 

Incense is in stick or cone form and is burned to give off a good smelling smoke. Find a scent that both you and your partner enjoy. Place the burning stick in an incense holder away from flammable objects and out of the way. 

Placement of oils, incense, lamps and candles can make a big difference. Too much smell or light can be distracting while not enough can lead to accidents. Be sure burning objects are in a safe place away from you're and your partner. 

11. SOUND 
Sound can really help to set the mood by taking your mind and your partner's mind off your busy lives. Music and other relaxing sounds are the best to use. 

12. MUSIC 
Find relaxing or exciting music. This can be anything that both you and your partner enjoy. Be creative - there are no limits! 

Sleep machines and other sound machines can be a great way to add a relaxing aspect to your sexy mood. Water, birds, and other sounds are best. 

If you have a small fountain in your home, move it to the room where you will be initiating your encounter. Fill it and turn it on to add a relaxing sound to the room. 

15. SIGHT 
The human brain is a very powerful sex organ, and visual stimulation is a great way to arouse yourself and your partner. 

16. FIRE 
If you have a fire place, and you have chosen that room as your place of mood setting, start a fire and watch it with your partner. The sound of the fire also adds to the mood. 

17. WATER 
Watching a fountain, a river, a lake or an ocean is a wonderful aphrodisiac. Water is both calming and highly erotic, plus the sound adds another important quality. 

While TV and movies can be distracting, if there is a special pornographic movie or a scene from a movie that arouses you and your partner, watch that together. 

19. AT HOME 
Setting the mood at home is a lot easier than trying to set the mood when you are away. Find a room you both enjoy or one you have never made love in. 

Sometimes a change in scenery can be just the added touch you need to set sparks flying on your sexual relationship. If you can afford it, get a hotel room for a night. Order champagne and strawberries! 

Again, changing the setting of love can help to set the mood. A Bed and Breakfast in a remote area can be a calming and exciting change for a weekend. 

If you want to add some kink to your life, try going to a seedy motel and getting a room. Renting the room by the hour can also be exciting and add a sex game aspect to the mood. 

Eat sexual foods like oysters, wine and chocolate. Describe the tastes and textures of the foods to each other. 

When you are at home, try different rooms in your home to change things up. In the kitchen, try cooking a meal for your partner to add to the mood. 

After cooking a meal for or with your partner, serve him or her the special meal on nice dishes. Light candles on the table and serve exotic aphrodisiac foods. 

In the living room, utilize the things you have there: use the stereo, the television, and the couch to create a mood of romance or of eroticism. 

The recreation room can add a teenage feeling to your sexual encounter. Try kissing on the sofa while watching a movie! 

While the bedroom is the most typical place to set the mood, it is also the most private. Utilize candles, scented oils and music to set the mood here. 

Run a bath for your partner. Let him or her enjoy the bath accompanied by candles and music, or join him or her in the bath. 

When you are setting the mood, it is incredibly important to appeal to the five senses: sight, hearing, taste, touch, and smell. 

31. EYES 
Stimulating the eyes with erotic sights or romantic gestures is an important part of setting the mood. 

32. EARS 
Have your partner listen to his or her favorite music or sounds in order to help him or her relax and enjoy your company. Audio stimulation is essential to setting the mood. 

Stimulation of the taste buds can add a whole new level or eroticism to your sexual encounter. Set the mood by giving your partner a blind taste test of chocolates or other treats. 

34. SKIN 
The sense of touch is sometimes thought of as the ultimate way to set the mood. By wrapping yourself and your partner in soft materials when you are naked, arousal is raised tremendously! 

35. NOSE 
Appeal to your partner's sense of smell by using scents that he or she enjoys. Make sure that neither of you are allergic to any smells before you do this! 

Talking is the best way to know what your partner wants and how he or she wants you to set the mood. Find out what his or her favorite smells, tastes, and sounds are before you try to choose anything. 

Acting on your desires and passions is a good way to set the mood and to show your partner what turns you on. But don't forget to act on his or her desires as well. 

By showing your partner your pleasures and desires, you can not only set the mood, but you will also learn a little bit more about your partner! 

Listening to your partner's desires and pleasures is the only way to learn about your partner and please him or her. 

Participating in the process of setting the mood is a good way to show your partner that you are interested in setting the mood for sex. 

If you usually initiate sex or set the mood for sex, switch with your partner. Allow him or her to be the one to set the mood. This, of course, also works in reverse as well. 

Take turns setting the mood for love and sex. If you set the romantic atmosphere one weekend, let your partner do it the following weekend. 

Encourage your partner to take the initiative to set the mood on his own or her own. Some people are shy and need encouragement! 

If your partner is shy or is concerned that something may be wrong with the way he or she set up the romantic interlude, reassure him or her that everything is okay. 

If something is wrong, i.e. a smell makes you cough or the oil makes you break out in a rash, gently let your partner know what is wrong so it can be changed for the next time. 

Tell your partner your feelings for him or her. Vocalizing your emotions is one of the best ways to set the mood! Never express and emotion that is not true. 

47. LOVE 
Tell your partner how much you love him or her. Explain why you love him or her and describe the moment when you fell in love or knew that you were in love. 

Feeling desire can be very exciting. Tell your partner how much you desire him or her. Explain what it is that turns you on and why. 

49. LUST 
Lust is an overpowering emotion and is often contagious. Telling your partner how much you want him or her can easily transfer to him or her lusting after you! 

Feeling tremendous passion for someone is another powerful emotion. Passion can translate into love or lust. Express this to your partner.