1. WHAT IS FOREPLAY?
Foreplay means different things to men and women. To please a woman, you need to know "her" definition and obey those rules. The same holds true for men who have their own definition of foreplay.
2. FOR WOMEN
Foreplay for a woman is more about intimacy and communication than it is about getting "worked up" or turned on.
3. FOR MEN
Every man has his own idea of what foreplay is for him. In other words, what he likes the woman to do to him prior to sex. Learning what he likes is half the fun of getting to know him.
You can do a lot by simply getting the lighting level in the room right. Many people do not enjoy sex in the complete dark. Lower the lights to a comfortable level.
You might be surprised at how powerful aroma can be in helping both men and women unwind. Find out what your favorite scents are and use them to your advantage.
6. EAR LOBE
Many men simply overlook the ear lobe as an erogenous zone on women. Sucking, nibbling, and soft licking on her ear lobe can turn a kitten into a tiger. What is more surprising is that men love this type of attention too.
The side and back of the neck are two of the most sensitive places on the human body. Very light kisses or very light stroking on these areas will melt your partner in no time. You can also use items such as feathers on this area.
There are as many ways to kiss your partner. Learn how to kiss your partner in various ways that he or she enjoys. Soft kisses are great, but hard kisses are often needed too. Know when to use the right type of kiss and your mate will swoon.
Kissing and light licking on bare shoulders is an all time favorite of women and quite a few men. Pay more attention to each other's bare shoulders.
The inner elbow is a hot spot for sex, especially for women. Use your lips or your tongue to stimulate this area.
The inside of a woman's wrist is one of nature's secret hot spots. Hold her hand and very gently kiss or lick the inside of her wrist. Men, on the other hand, are so sensitive here.
Hands are loaded with nerve endings and when you pay attention to your partner's hands they will notice. Be light and easy with kisses and licking in this area.
When it is time to touch her breasts, be gentle and understand that sucking on her breasts or squeezing them hard and deep can be painful. Start slowly and begin with light kisses and licks.
A man's nipples are not as sensitive as a woman's but they can be stimulated by touch or tongue.
A woman's nipples are like two electric switches that are connected to her vagina. Think of a triangle. When you tease and delight her nipples properly a spark can run straight down to her lower parts.
Some men enjoy having their tummies rubbed or kissed, but this is usually not an overly sensitive or erotic area for the male. However, that does not mean the female should make some attempt to please in this area.
16. BELLY BUTTON
Run the tip of your tongue around the circle of the belly button and watch each other squirm.
17. PUBIC AREA
Whether she is shaved or not the pubic area is a great place to begin your tease with her. She knows where you are heading but that does not mean you have to be in a hurry to get there. Take your time, kiss her pubic area, run your hands over that area and lick her there. The anticipation will please her to no end.
The same holds true for men. Men love it when their women run their hands over the pubic area. You do not have to touch his penis yet, make me wait a little bit.
Kissing or lightly stroking the inside of the thighs is a sure way to help anyone relax and become aroused. You should spend a lot of time in this general area, allowing the top of your head or the back of your hand to gently brush against her partner's genitalia. Yes, this is teasing and both will love it.
Try licking, biting, sucking, and blowing on the skin around the vagina (never into the vagina, as this can cause a fatal air embolis) to see what happens.
20. INNER THIGHS
There is a line of nerve endings that run down the center of the inner thighs.
It is well worth your time to locate this line and to spend some time gently licking your partner there.
Of course the penis is an erogenous zone for men. But the penis has many areas, each of which provides its own distinct sensation when stimulated.
During foreplay, the female should attempt to excite him but not cause climax just yet.
The male scrotum is the sac that contains the testicles. This area can be highly sensitive to touch by fingers, lips, tongue, etc. Almost any attention paid to this area will be considered erotic by the male, but be gentle in this area. Pain can easily be inflicted here.
23. GLANS HEAD
The glans head is the top of his penis. This is the head of his penis and is often flared during erection. The glans is loaded with nerve endings and this area is highly sensitive to any kind of touching. It is a little known fact that stimulating the glans alone can bring a man to climax. That is how sensitive it is. Men who have foreskin attached are even more sensitive in this area.
This is a very small area that is on the underside of the penis. It can look like a "Y" and this area is very sensitive to touch. Any light touching on this area will bring about pleasure to most men, but the touch should be light and gentle.
Calves are great for kissing but they are best for light stroking.
The inside of the ankles can be a highly sensitive erogenous zone. Try very gently kissing and licking the ankle area. Stroke this area with very gentle touches and see what happens.
27. FE E T
Some people are too ticklish to enjoy having their feet played with. For the others, the key is gentle touching without being so gentle as to tickle (unless you plan to tickle which is okay at times).
Toes can be very sensual, but as above, if your mate is super ticklish, you may need to bypass this one. If they are not, you may want to suck the toes or flick them with your tongue. Many women can actually have an orgasm if this is done correctly.
29. RUBBING, TOUCHING, CARESSING
Everyone likes to be touched in that special way. There is no one rule that applies to everyone, so try them all!
Whispering something romantic or something sexy to your mate can go a long way in helping them get into the mood. Whispers are like tiny tickles to a woman. They love them and the more you give her the more she will like it. Men enjoy them too!
31. INVISIBLE FANTASY—BLINDFOLD
Tell your partner to close his or her eyes and to not peek. Tell them they are blindfolded. Then spend time kissing and touching as mentioned above. Your partner will love the mystery of not knowing where you are going to kiss them next.
32. INVISIBLE FANTASY—HANDS BOUND
Love bondage is a favorite fantasy for many couples but some people may not be into it. Ask your partner to put her hands above her head, hold on to the head board of the bed, and tell her not to lower her hands. If she can get into this fantasy, she will love the naughtiness of this one. Many men enjoy this one as well as it allows them to be somewhat submissive.
Foreplay can include simple things like spooning. Hold her close, her back to your front, on your sides, and gently caress her. Kiss the back of her neck and shoulders and whisper to her. This technique can easily be reversed so that the male is held.
One of the best things you can do to improve your foreplay is to simply talk to each other. Ask her what she likes and what she does not like, but make this a two-way conversation. Tell him what you like and dislike as well. This dialog does not have to take place during the moment and probably should not.
Talking to one another is wasted time unless you listen to each other. One thing a woman wants is to be listened to. When she is sharing her desires or fears with you, listen to her. Engage her in the conversation and then do as she asks. If you don't understand something, say so, and ask her to explain it to you.
For men, talking about needs and desires is often difficult. Women can help in this matter by gently asking questions and then waiting for the answer.
36. STOP WHEN NEEDED
Foreplay can be extended. By that, you do not have to move from foreplay straight to sex.
37. SHOW ME GAME
There is an old game that some people love to play during foreplay. It is a simple game. Tell your woman to point to the place she wants you to kiss.
Then you kiss and lick her there. Then she points to the next place and so forth and so on. It can be very exciting to watch as she gets bolder and bolder. After a certain amount of predetermined time, he gets to point to his body and she kisses him.
38. WHIPPED CREAM
An old standby that never seems to fail. This is an old standby because it works. Grab a can of whipped cream and squirt some on her body. You can take turns with this one and, for some reason, women and men love it.
39. FEATHER TOUCH
You can use a feather or just your fingertips for this one. Stroke and caress your partner as if he or she were delicate and fragile. Very light strokes can really turn on the heat.
40. ICE BABY
Try stroking him or her with an ice cube. Again, use very light strokes, just barely touching her body with the cube.
41. LOSE THE MANUAL
Understand that there is no right way to perform foreplay. Every person is different and it is up to you to learn your partner's secrets. You can start with the basics and move on from there, but never expect what worked on one person to work on all people.