First, lets talk about momentum. A car moving at a rate of 60 mph compared to a car moving at a rate of 5 mph will require more force in a given period of time to stop. The same is true with your ejaculation, sometimes but not always. I will explain “sometimes but not always”.
Hard and fast stimulation to the penis may cause a significant amount of ejaculatory momentum or energy, making it extremely hard to resist ejaculating. Then on the other hand slow stimulation may result in a relatively low amount of ejaculatory momentum making it easier to resist the act of ejaculating.
Your PC muscle is the force that slows or buffers the momentum.
7) Strengthening the PC Muscle
The PC muscle controls urine flow and ejaculation. Contracting this muscle before and/or at the point of ejaculation can prolong stamina and penile erections.
The contraction of a strong PC muscle can completely block the flow of semen enabling an orgasm without ejaculation, which may allow for unlimited stamina. To locate your PC muscle, squeeze as if you are trying to stop the flow of urine. That is your PC muscle. Exercising the PC muscle is one of the most boring things I can think of, but it is well worth the time and effort.
You will have to schedule your own routine. It could be in the morning before you get up or at work in a chair. Practice interrupting your urine flow, also.
Contract the PC muscle for 10 seconds then rest with one deep breath. Repeat until the muscle is exhausted. Try to keep up with the count working up to 100 - 200 contractions a day. This may take several weeks. Always breathe normal when exercising Avoid holding your breath, and always breathe normal to heavy during sex. Your body needs the fresh oxygen for energy.
8) Vaginal Orgasm
The vaginal cavity is usually not a highly sensitive area to most women until fully aroused. The vagina walls can be gorged with blood, becoming sensitive to fondling, deep pressure or different types of rhythmic or thrusting movements but this is likely the result of clitoral and G-spot stimuli as well, or just the pure excitement of having sex.
Since the clit is so close to the vaginal cavity, it may receive stimulation by pressure of the male pelvic area or hand during deep, rhythmic movements causing it to get pulled or pressed. A vaginal orgasm can be the result of the clit or G spot being stimulated, and can differ in degree from a small pelvic sensation to a "Full Body Orgasm".
9) Anal Orgasm
Anal stimulation is a controversial topic so I will just lay down some facts and not get into religious or spiritual beliefs. Nor will I make any moral or immoral comments about anal stimulation. (Personally, I do not recommend anal intercourse.)
The anus is full of highly sensitive and responsive nerve endings that can be stimulated like any other genital area causing orgasmic sensations. For males, the prostate may be stimulated by interior anal stimulation. For both sexes, interior anal stimulation could result in orgasm with or without ejaculation. Many report having anal orgasms and full body orgasms during enemas.
The anal muscles are strong and when squeezed during any type of orgasm can enhance other orgasmic sensations. Anal stimulation can be very pleasurable, yet risky. Damage may occur to the colon by deep anal penetration.
Anal stimulation, consequently, can result in sexually transmitted diseases and bacterial infection, also damaging the rectal muscles and tissue, resulting in loss of bowel control, hemorrhoids or death. (Always disinfect anything that has accidentally touched the anus before touching any other part of the body to avoid sickness and disease.)
10) Mind Orgasm
All orgasms originate from the mind, but I have coined the mind orgasm as one that happens from thought stimulation. Yes, thought is the only stimulation one has during a mind orgasm causing different parts of the body to respond as though they were being physically stimulated. One may experience it by thinking about sex or by reminiscing on a past sexual encounter causing the body to relive everything. Hence a wet dream.
This just goes to show how important it is to be in the right frame of mind for sex. Make love to your lover's mind with romance and kind words, then watch what their brain does to their body. They may have a mind orgasm right before your very eyes.
The good thing about it is you can start making love to your lover with romance over the phone from work or by a card you left before you went to work. With this type of attention, the body will prepare itself all day for an unforgettable night.
Remember not to expect unrealistic responses from your lover. A mind orgasm is like the wind, you don't see it coming or going, but there is evidence of it happening. It takes focused thought to have a mind orgasm, which usually happens by surprise and without effort.
11) Levels of Sexual Arousal
You must be able to define your levels of sexual arousal (momentum) on a scale from one to five so you can successfully determine the best time to contract your PC muscle.
I suggest having sex with your partner with the sole intention of learning the levels of sexual arousal. You do not have to have intercourse. Hand or oral stimulation is also good for this exercise. Be creative and carefree with lots of foreplay and fun. Start slow with kissing and caressing. It may also be fun for a woman to define her levels of sexual arousal as each of you take turns concentrating on each other, one at a time, briefly describing to one another what each level feels like.
A good atmosphere can make this exercise an enjoyable and rewarding experience as each of you learn more about yourselves and each other. If you do not feel comfortable sharing this exercise with your lover, just learn while making love. The key is to know when to rest and allow your sensitivity to subside and when to squeeze your PC muscle, which is explained later in more detail.
Familiarize yourself with each level keeping in mind that level four will be your most important level. Levels of sexual arousal and momentum:
One - erection without stimulation
Two - stimulation without the feeling of possible ejaculation
Three - stimulation with a controlled felling of pleasure and little or no feeling of ejaculation
Four - feelings of ejaculation
Five - actual ejaculatory spasms